Low libido? It's completely normal!

Let’s be real: society loves to slap labels on fluctuating sexual desire, calling it a “problem.” But for women who’ve experienced trauma, this narrative can feel particularly harmful. Babe, here’s the truth: sexual desire is a complex, ever-evolving part of the human experience, influenced by everything from hormones to past experiences. For women navigating the aftermath of trauma, these changes are not only normal—they’re valid.

Life happens. Stress, relationship dynamics, hormones—it’s a lot. For all of us, sexual desire naturally ebbs and flows. But for women who’ve faced sexual trauma, these fluctuations can feel amplified, layered with emotions and responses tied to past experiences.

Declines in desire are one of the many ways trauma can manifest, but let’s get one thing straight: they are not a reflection of inadequacy or failure. Instead, they’re a reflection of the body's and mind’s way of processing and protecting. Recognizing this is a key step in embracing healing and self-acceptance.

Reclaiming Your Story Through Self-Compassion

Your desire—or lack of it—doesn’t define your worth. Changes in libido aren’t flaws; they’re signals. Signals that your body and mind are navigating something big. Once you acknowledge this, you can begin to approach your journey with the patience, love, and compassion you deserve.

Accepting these fluctuations as part of the healing process doesn’t mean settling—it means empowering yourself to reclaim control over your narrative. It’s about choosing to heal on your terms, with no apologies for the pace or direction of your journey.

A Holistic Approach to Healing

As a certified aromatherapist and sex therapist, I believe healing is a full-body, full-heart process. For women healing from sexual trauma, this can mean integrating methods like:

• Therapeutic interventions: Working with a trauma-informed therapist to process and rebuild.

• Mindfulness practices: Techniques like meditation and breathwork to reconnect with your body in safe, empowering ways.

• Aromatherapy: Tailored essential oils like rose, clary sage, or frankincense can soothe the nervous system, balance hormones, and enhance emotional grounding.

Each of these tools can be personalized to meet you exactly where you are, creating a nurturing space for recovery.

De-stigmatizing Desire Fluctuations

One of the most damaging myths out there is the idea that a decrease in sexual desire means something is “wrong.” Nope. Not today, not ever. For women who’ve experienced sexual trauma, libido changes are part of a complex and deeply personal healing journey. It’s not about fixing what’s “broken” but about honoring where you are and what you need.

Empowerment starts with knowledge and a safe space to explore your intimate health. My mission is to help women reclaim their autonomy, trust their bodies, and embrace their healing journeys. When you take control of your narrative, you foster resilience and agency that can help you thrive—not just survive.

Your Journey, Your Rules

Healing isn’t linear, and it certainly isn’t one-size-fits-all. Fluctuations in desire are just one chapter in your story, not the whole book. By embracing these changes with self-compassion and exploring holistic approaches to healing, you can reclaim your power and create a narrative filled with strength, growth, and love.